Divorce is an inherently emotional process. After all, the end of a marriage is a pretty big deal and, no matter how necessary it is, both parties are bound to feel a vast range of emotions, some of which might even be a little disruptive. Trying to cope with your divorce while you are work might even impact your productivity level and, while your boss might be a little understanding at this time, work must still be done.
We have compiled a list of tips to help you get through the day at work during your divorce:
- Always have a task to work on: If you experience a lull in your workday, your brain might wander off and you might start thinking about your divorce, so always make sure you are working on a task and keep busy. Of course, no one is saying that you should bottle up and repress your feelings, but thinking about your divorce at work will only ruin your day and stop you from getting things done.
- Redecorate your desk: You probably have some keepsakes on your desk or photos of you and your spouse together and, unfortunately, having to look at these items will only cause you distress while you are trying to do your job, so wipe the slate clean and start redecorating. Remove the old photographs and populate your workspace with items that bring you happiness or make you feel calm and at peace.
- Know what you plan to say: You are probably going to be a little more down than usual and your co-workers might very well notice, so try to have something prepared to say for when someone asks about your well-being. You do not have to dive deep into the details of what went wrong with your marriage. In fact, you do not even have to say that you are going through a divorce. The only person who should know about your divorce is your boss since it might interfere with your schedule, but you do not have to share this information with your co-workers if you are not comfortable with it.
- Avoid viewing or answering any messages regarding your divorce: You probably cannot avoid your phone and email during the entire workday, but you should avoid reading or responding to anything divorce-related, even if it is from your attorney. Let him or her know that, unless it is time-sensitive, you would rather save all legal matters until after you are off work.
- Go on a break: Depending on your job, you might have the chance to go on a couple of breaks throughout your workday. Make sure you take them! Going on a break is a great way to clear your thought and recalibrate before you get back to work. Go for a walk, watch a silly YouTube video, or listen to some music. This is your time to go on a quick mental vacation.
When you are not at work, make sure you are also doing what you need to take care of yourself. You might even want to find a therapist to discuss what you are feeling and experiencing at this time. He or she could equip you with the tools you need to effectively cope with the end of your marriage.
Contact an Experienced and Compassionate Divorce Attorney
At The Law Offices of Mark. R. Hinshaw, our team understands that you are likely going through a difficult time if you are in the midst of getting divorced. Do not try to dissolve your marriage on your own. Our team will help you navigate this complex process and ensure that you do not make any unnecessary mistakes.
Contact our office today at (515) 200-7571 to request a free case review with one of our attorneys.