When we think of divorce, we often imagine ugly courtroom trials. We picture angry spouses trying to undercut and scam one another out of money, property, and so on. These perceptions give us a sense that someone will “win” or “lose.”
It doesn’t have to be this way. When it’s time to get a divorce, court is not always necessary. Many other options are available to you.
One such option is a “collaborative” divorce. In this article, we will explore what a collaborative divorce is and how it works.
The Purpose of a Collaborative Divorce
A collaborative divorce is exactly what it sounds like. It is spouses working together to achieve the best outcome for their marriage dissolution. No one is trying to “one-up” the other. Each party prepares for negotiation and compromise.
Getting a Lawyer
Normally, each spouse will have their own attorney for the process. Again, this is not so they can secure a “win.” It is simply a way of making sure everyone’s needs are properly addressed. Spouses meet with their individual lawyers and voice their concerns. Since everyone is on the same side, one attorney can even recommend another for the process.
Afterward, the spouses and their attorneys meet, and negotiations begin. Ideally, no one fights, and the process never gets ugly. This is a team of four people working together, trying to meet everyone’s needs. The attorneys make sure that everything is in order and legally sound, and they provide skilled suggestions when spouses hit a gridlock.
Bringing in Other Experts
You can include other professionals in your collaborative divorce. Depending on your needs, you may need help from a financial expert. Child psychologists can assist in creating a fair custody split that is healthy for the children. If any other experts can help, you can bring them in as well.
The Benefits of a Collaborative Divorce
In a collaborative divorce, you are paying for every professional’s time. Doing so can get pricey, but it is still likely to be less expensive than a courtroom divorce.
In court, you must pay for attorneys to investigate every claim. Then, you pay for them to present their evidence and arguments. The whole process can take weeks or even months.
With collaborative divorce, you simply pay for the time of each meeting and any court filing costs.
When your divorce goes to court, everything is forced upon you. You must abide by the court’s ruling, whether it is fair or not.
A collaborative divorce can provide more peace of mind. You may not get everything you want, but you agree to all the decisions. This gives you power and agency over your divorce, which can help you move forward with less frustration.
A Brighter Future
Collaborative divorce gives you one last project to work on with your spouse. This can help you both walk away with less animosity.
Being at ease with one another is especially good for your children. Collaborative divorce can help you build better negotiation skills without fighting. This will cut down on stress in the family and help the kids flourish in a more peaceful environment.
Our firm is here to help with your collaborative divorce. You can schedule time with us online or call us today at (515) 200-7571.